اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ بِجَمِیعِ مَحَامِدِه کُلِّهَا عَلَی جَمِیعِ نِعَمِهِ کُلِّهَا… اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ مالِکِ الْمُلْکِ مُجْرِی الْفُلْکِ مُسَخِّرِ الرِّیاحِ فالِقِ الاْصْباحِ دَیّانِ الدّینِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمینَ اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ عَلی حِلْمِهِ بَعْدَ عِلمِهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ عَلی عَفْوِهِ بَعْدَ قُدْرَتِهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ عَلی طُولِ اَناتِهِ فی غَضَبِهِ وَهُوَ قادِرٌ عَلی ما یُریدُ
Praise is to God with all his praises, for all his blessings. . . Praise is to God, the owner of the property, the operator of the orbit, the bender of the wind, the glory of the morning, the religion of the beliefs, lord of the worlds; praise is to God for his dream after his knowledge and thank God for forgiveness after his power, and praise be to God for his long patience in his wrath and he is capable to do what he wills
و نشهد أن لا اله الا الله وحده لا شریک له، و أَنَّ محمداً عبده و رسوله ارسله بالهدی و دین الحق لیظهره علی الدین کله و لو کره المشرکون اوصیکم عبادالله و نفسی بتقوی الله و اتباع امره و نهیه، و اخوفکم من عقابه
And we bear witness that there is no god but God alone, without partner, and that Muhammad is his servant and messenger, he sent him with guidance and the religion of truth, that he might proclaim it over all religion, even if the polytheists hated it.
Thirty-second sign of the pious:
بَعِيداً فُحْشُهُ لَيِّناً قَوْلُهُ،
Ugly and violent speech is far from him, and his speech is soft and gentle,
Pious people treat all people with good language and lovely expressions, and violence in ugly speech and words is far from them. They do not only say such things, but they are also far from them. Imam Sadegh, peace upon him, in response to the question about the borders of the good character, says:
تُلِينُ جَنَاحَكَ وَ تُطِيبُ كَلَامَكَ وَ تَلْقَى أَخَاكَ بِبِشْرٍ حَسَنٍ.
The border of good manner is to be gentle and to cleanse your speech and to meet your brother with an open face. (al-Kafi, volume 2, page 103)
The holy Prophet, peace is upon him and his family, in expressing the intensity of God’s hatred towards an abusive person, says:
إِنَّ اللَّهَ حَرَّمَ الْجَنَّةَ عَلَى كُلِّ فَحَّاشٍ بَذِيءٍ قَلِيلِ الْحَيَاء لَا يُبَالِي مَا قَالَ وَ لَا مَا قِيلَ لَهُ؛
Indeed, God has forbidden paradise to any abusive and rude who is not afraid to say a word or whatever he may hear. (al-Kafi, volume 2, page 323)
Insulting is a weapon of people who have a low personality and capacity, as Imam Baqir, greetings to him, said:
سِلَاحُ اللِّئَامِ قَبِيحُ الْكَلَامِ؛
The weapon of vile people is ugly words and sentences. (Kashf al-ghamma fi Marefat al-A’emat, volume 2, page 121)
And for this reason, they do not have a place among the wise and competent people of society because they are not of their type. In fact, human language informs from his inside, if inside of a man is clear and enlightened, the words that flow on his tongue are pure and beautiful, and if he has a polluted and dark inside, his sentences will also be polluted and ugly.
Imam Ali, peace upon him, says:
الْمَرْءُ مَخْبُوءٌ تَحْتَ لِسَانِهِ؛
Man is hidden under his tongue. (al-Emami (Lelsodoogh), page 447)
That is, it is enough for him to open his mouth to speak about his inner self and personality.
The almighty God, in the holy Qur’an, considers the use of obscene and ugly displeasing words and warns believers against it. Says:
لا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَ لا تَنابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقابِ بِئْسَ الاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمانِ وَ مَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ؛
And do not defame one another, nor insult one another by [calling] nicknames. How evil are profane names subsequent to faith! As for those who are not penitent [of their past conduct]—such are the wrongdoers. (Hajarat: 11)
It has often happened that people are annoyed by the ratio of vulgar words in the form of ridicule or even jokes, and choose to stay away from the speaker in order to avoid the insult, ridicule and bitterness of his words. Bad language and obscenity cause a person to lose people around him.
The tongue is like stone and iron and thunder is better than a language like fire;
The tyrant people, who closed their eyes, burned the world with their words;
Destroy the world with one word; make a dead fox to a lion with words;
Swearing causes misery and hardship
It is stated in a narration that:
مَنْ فَحَشَ عَلَى أَخِيهِ الْمُسْلِمِ نَزَعَ اللَّهُ مِنْهُ بَرَكَةَ رِزْقِهِ وَ وَكَلَهُ إِلَى نَفْسِهِ وَ أَفْسَدَ عَلَيْهِ مَعِيشَتَهُ؛
Whoever insults his muslim brother, God removes the blessing of his sustenance from him and leaves him to himself and corrupts his life and livelihood. (Vasa’el al-shiah, volume 2, page 33)
The first person to suffer from bad language is the bad person himself and the abuser. All the privileges of human life are the product of the blessings that God has placed in his sustenance, a good wife, righteous children, worthy friends, ….. Imam Ali, peace upon him, says:
كَمْ مِنْ كَلِمَةٍ سَلَبَتْ نِعْمَةً؛
What a word that takes away all the blessing. (Ketr al-Fava’ed, volume 2, page 14)
Blessings of soft and firm speech
Patience and softness in speech cause love and affection. Also it would cause the person who is addressed of ‘enjoining the good and forbidding the wrong’ to accept the word of the commander to the good. Therefore, when God sends Moses and Aaron to Pharaoh, he commands them to speak softly to him, and says:
اذْهَبا إِلى فِرْعَوْنَ إِنَّهُ طَغى * فَقُولا لَهُ قَوْلاً لَيِّناً لَعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشی؛
Both of you go to Pharaoh, for he has indeed rebelled. Speak to him in a soft manner; maybe he will take admonition or fear. (Taha: 43-44)
One of the noble morals of the messenger of God, peace and blessings of God is upon him, is the softness of his speech, which his Lord has praised him in the holy Qur’an, saying:
فَبِما رَحْمَةٍ مِنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ وَ لَوْ كُنْتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لانْفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ؛
It is by Allah’s mercy that you are gentle to them; had you been harsh and hardhearted, they would have surely scattered from around you. (Al Omran: 159)
Seek God from cursive words
Imam Zayn al-Abidin, peace upon him, in the prayer of Makarem al-Akhlaq, in expressing the evils and sins of the tongue, first mentions curses and insults and asks God to give praise to God on their blessed tongue instead. Imam Sajjad offers to the almighty God:
اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْ … مَا أَجْرَى عَلَى لِسَانِي مِنْ لَفْظَةِ فُحْشٍ أَوْ هُجْرٍ أَوْ شَتْمِ عِرْضٍ أَوْ شَهَادَةِ بَاطِلٍ أَوِ اغْتِيَابِ مُؤْمِنٍ غَائِبٍ أَوْ سَبِّ حَاضِرٍ وَ مَا أَشْبَهَ ذَلِكَ نُطْقاً بِالْحَمْدِ لَكَ، وَ إِغْرَاقاً فِي الثَّنَاءِ عَلَيْكَ، وَ ذَهَاباً فِي تَمْجِيدِكَ، وَ شُكْراً لِنِعْمَتِكَ، وَ اعْتِرَافاً بِإِحْسَانِكَ، وَ إِحْصَاءً لِمِنَنِكَ.
O God… Make everything he causes to pass over my tongue, – the indecent or ugly words, the maligning of good repute, the false witness, the speaking ill of an absent man of faith or the reviling of one present, and all things similar – a speech in praise of Thee, a pursual of eulogizing Thee, an excursion in magnifying Thee, a thanksgiving for Thy favour, an acknowledgement of Thy beneficence, and an enumeration of Thy kindnesses! (Sahife Sajjadie, 20th Supplication, page 136)