First of all it
should never be about looking for the right person because honestly, there is
no such thing as the right person. Nobody is perfect and everyone has their own
strengths and weaknesses. The whole idea behind marriage is about forging a
partnership and then making it work. Many people fall into the trap of always
seeking that right person. There are several reasons for this but one of the
main ones is that from an early age many people hear themselves talked about
admiringly amongst families, teachers, co-workers and friends. Since they get
complimented a lot this sometimes puts a seed of ‘self-importance’ or ‘you are
better than others’ in their hearts. Hollywood movies come in as toppings on
the cake to make it even worse.
When this
individual sets out to seek a spouse he/she finds it very hard to decide who is
good enough for them. They have been filled with so much praise and unnecessary
attention that it becomes easy for the devil to make them think no one out
there matches up to their high standards. This leads them to ignore or overlook
many good people who might actually make very good partners. A marriage can
only last as long as both people are working on it. In practice this means
looking after each other’s needs, understanding each other’s backgrounds and
values, mutual respect, taking on specific roles, and sharing certain duties.