بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
لِلّهِ بِجَمِیعِ مَحَامِدِه کُلِّهَا عَلَی جَمِیعِ نِعَمِهِ کُلِّهَا… اَلْحَمْدُ
لِلّهِ مالِکِ الْمُلْکِ مُجْرِی الْفُلْکِ مُسَخِّرِ الرِّیاحِ فالِقِ الاْصْباحِ دَیّانِ الدّینِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمینَ اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ عَلی حِلْمِهِ بَعْدَ عِلمِهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ عَلی عَفْوِهِ بَعْدَ قُدْرَتِهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ عَلی طُولِ اَناتِهِ فی غَضَبِهِ وَهُوَ قادِرٌ عَلی ما یُریدُ ثم الصلاه و السلام علی محمد عبده و رسوله ارسله بالهدی و دین الحق لیظهره علی الدین کله و لو کره المشرکون
عبادالله و نفسی بتقوی الله و اتباع امره و نهیه، و اخوفکم من عقابه
A very important principle in the ethics of social
communication that is strongly recommended by Islam is tolerance. Tolerance
means softness and speaking politely, not frailty and appeasement. Tolerance is
to speak soft but real, saying the truth but with calmness and no violent.
Society is made up of different people with different
mindsets. We can never see all people like ourselves and expect everyone to
think like us. Or find a society where there is no error and no sin and
everyone thinks the same. Sometimes the members of a family are different in
their thinking and beliefs. In the families of the prophets, both the wife of
Noah and the wife of Lot didn’t believe same as theire husbands who were
prophets, or among the children of the prophets, such as the son of Noah, whose
father was a prophet. The Qur an says:
إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ مِنْ أَهْلِكَ.
Or among the children of the Imams,
Ja far is the son of Imam Hadi, who was brother of the Imam, but he was out of
his father s thinking line. The Prophet could not even create such a uniform
society. The Qur an says:
فَلَعَلَّكَ بَاخِعٌ نَّفْسَكَ عَلَىٰ آثَارِهِمْ إِن لَّمْ يُؤْمِنُوا بِهَـٰذَا الْحَدِيثِ أَسَفًا
Perhaps if they do not believe in
this, that “Perhaps you may destroy yourself with grief, chasing
after them, if they do not believe in this information”, We put the sun and
moon algebraically in a special orbit, but humans don t have to. God says:
فَلَوْ شَاءَ لَهَدَاكُمْ أَجْمَعِينَ
Had He willed, He would have guided
So he tells the Prophet that you are only a
فَذَكِّرْ إِنَّمَا أَنتَ مُذَكِّرٌ لَّسْتَ عَلَيْهِم بِمُصَيْطِرٍ
Just show the way
إِنَّا هَدَيْنَاهُ السَّبِيلَ
So it has never been that all humans
are believers and have not committed any sin. At the time of the prophets and
the imams there were people who were not believers, were not faithful or were
sinful, the prophets or imams dealt with them, and sometimes they warned them
directly and sometimes indirectly.
So in human society, one is a
believer, one is unbelieving, one is good, one is bad, one is quick and one is
slow. It is here that the importance of a principle in social and human
relations is known as tolerance. Comfort and tolerance are attributes of God
or comrade . The Prophet peace be upon him said:
أَمَرَنى رَبّى بِمُداراةِ النّاسِ كَما أَمَرَنى بِأَداءِ الفَرائِضِ
My Lord commanded me to tolerate
people, and as He commanded me to do. The doctrine of adherence lies beside
Imam Sadiq as says:
جَاءَ جَبْرَئِيلُ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ إِلَى اَلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اَللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ آلِهِ فَقَالَ يَا مُحَمَّدُ رَبُّكَ يُقْرِئُكَ اَلسَّلاَمَ وَ يَقُولُ لَكَ دَارِ خَلْقِي
Gabriel came to the Prophet peace
and blessings be upon him and said: O Prophet Muhammad, god says have
tolerance on my creature.
The Prophet peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him says:
مُداراةُ النّاسِ نِصفُ الإيمانِ، و الرِّفقُ بِهِم نِصفُ العَيشِ
To tolerate people is half the faith,
and to be gentle and kind to them is half the life.
Imam Ali as says:
عُنوانُ العَقلِ مُداراةُ النّاسِ
Tolerance with people is a matter of
One of the important things that
requires tolerance is the issue of education and raising kids.
If the parent or educator is looking
for the right upbringing for their children, they need to be tolerant in order
to be effective. Otherwise it won t work. If you look at the beginning of the
formation of Islamic society and Islamic religious law, you can see that the
religious orders came gradually and the Prophet was tolerated. For example,
the boycott was not in Mecca, but in
Medina, and the boycott took place. It
is an important issue to gradually inform one with patience and patience. At
first, as a child learns to walk, parents walk next to him and do not run.
Education should be like this. Step by step with patience, friendliness and
God says in the Qur an:
ادْعُ إِلَىٰ سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ وَجَادِلْهُم بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ
Invite to the way of your Lord with
wisdom and good advice, and debate with them in the most dignified manner
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّـهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ
It is by of grace from God that you
were gentle with them. Had you been harsh, hardhearted, they would have
dispersed from around you. So pardon them, and ask forgiveness for them
When Moses and Khazr were apart from
each other, Khazr made one last recommendation to Moses:
كَانَ آخِرُ مَا أَوْصَى بِهِ اَلْخَضِرُ مُوسَى بْنَ عِمْرَانَ عَلَيْهِ السَّلاَمُ أَنْ قَالَ لَهُ لاَ تُعَيِّرَنَّ أَحَداً بِذَنْبٍ وَ إِنَّ أَحَبَّ اَلْأُمُورِ إِلَى اَللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ ثَلاَثَةٌ اَلْقَصْدُ فِي اَلْجِدَةِ وَ اَلْعَفْوُ فِي اَلْمَقْدُرَةِ وَ اَلرِّفْقُ بِعِبَادِ اَللَّهِ وَ مَا رَفَقَ أَحَدٌ بِأَحَدٍ فِي اَلدُّنْيَا إِلاَّ رَفَقَ اَللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ بِهِ يَوْمَ اَلْقِيَامَةِ وَ رَأْسُ اَلْحِكْمَةِ
مَخَافَةُ اَللَّهِ تَبَارَكَ وَ تَعَالَى
Do not blame anyone for sin, the most
loving things to God are three things: contentment in wealth, forgiveness in
ability, companionship and softness with God s servants. No one in the world
will be soft with anyone except God will treat him softly on the Day of
Judgment. The fruit of wisdom is the fear of God.
The guilty person is like the sick.
They don t blame the patient. The patient is treated with medication.
So fathers and mothers who are
friendly and tolerant with their children can better attract them to the right
path. If you blame someone for your mistake, blame will be stubborn.
We ask God to grant us the success of
tolerance and adaptation.